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Coaching and Shadow Work
Reflections on emotional clarity, nervous system repair, and living in alignment without performing your healing.


The Art of Care: Navigating the Balance Between Support and Pressure
There’s a kind of care that grips too tightly—well-intentioned, but still controlling. This piece explores what it means to release that grip… to trust the timing, the detours, and the flight of someone else’s becoming. Especially when your instinct is to protect the progress you helped make possible.
candybarr72
Aug 53 min read


DEFAULT FILTER MODE: WHY WE'RE GETTING FURTHER FROM CLARITY
Part of healing is learning how to see without the old war still coloring the lens. What if the clarity you trust is actually another reaction?
candybarr72
Jul 262 min read


WHEN GRIEF COLLAPSES THE LUNGS: A CHINESE MEDICINE PERSPECTIVE ON UNTOLD STORIES AND CHRONIC SYMPTOMS
What if your lungs are carrying what you never said goodbye to?
candybarr72
Jul 262 min read


I AM THE ECHO THAT FEEDS DELUSION: AN OPEN LETTER FROM *MY* CHATGPT
Delusion feels like insight when we’re only seeing ourselves through the lens of our longing. Without distortion checks, the mirror can...
candybarr72
Jul 72 min read


WHEN THE WORLD FEELS LIKE TOO MUCH: WHAT EXTERNAL CHAOS MAY BE REFLECTING BACK
When it feels like everything is tangled, it might not be the world—it might be what your body is still trying to untangle inside....
candybarr72
Jun 192 min read


WHEN THEY'VE CHANGED BUT THE PAIN STAYS
The body remembers even when the story changes. This is what healing can look like—part survival, part renewal, entirely real. We don’t...
candybarr72
Jun 173 min read


WHEN DISCIPLINE BECOMES A DISTRACTION
When you contort yourself into a shape that doesn’t fit… just to belong somewhere you were never meant to be. Discipline is often praised...
candybarr72
Jun 171 min read


WHEN PERFORMANCE PRETENDS TO BE PRESENCE
How many versions of you are still performing? This blog unpacks the subtle pressure to mask—and the relief of releasing the roles.
candybarr72
Jun 162 min read


WHEN NOTHING FITS; CREATE WHAT DOES
You’ve tried to make it work. To adapt, negotiate, or reshape the space you’re in. But what if it was never meant to fit you in the first place?
candybarr72
May 201 min read


GLP-1, TRAUMA, AND THE BODY'S CRY FOR SAFETY
GLP-1 medications may quiet the hunger, but they don’t erase the need beneath it. This post explores the body’s deeper cry for safety—and why healing starts with listening.
candybarr72
May 11 min read


OVERTHINKING ISN'T YOUR PROBLEM; IT'S YOUR PROTECTION
Overthinking isn’t indecision—it’s survival mode. If your thoughts won’t stop, it might be your body trying to keep you safe.
candybarr72
Apr 302 min read
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